Don’t Believe Everything you think !!

 

The elephant has incredible strength. It can uproot a tree with its trunk alone. Yet it will remain in captivity, held only with a light rope. Despite its ability to easily break away, it doesn’t even try.

Why?

It starts when the elephant is young. It is first tied down when its small and not yet strong enough to break the rope. It will try initially as hard as it can to break free, and keep trying but eventually realise it won’t be possible. Suddenly, something attaches itself to that elephant stronger than any rope or chain or fence. It’s the belief that it can’t break free. It’s this belief that holds it back despite the strength and ability. I’ve had these same beliefs and I know you may have too, beliefs that held me back, beliefs that led me to feel unfulfilled in my work, to struggle in my relationships and to live a life that was far from the one I am living now. It was only when I became aware of my ropes and actively pulled against them that I found myself in a different reality.

HOW DO YOU BREAK THE ROPES THAT TIE YOU DOWN?

Don’t believe everything you think.

In my teen days, I was bold, outgoing and fearless. I wore message tees that I liked wearing then or it can be phrased as I didn’t wear guided clothes, guided by my self thoughts that told me what would make me happy. I even had a crush and later dated her briefly. As with everything else, I wasn’t afraid to flaunt what I wanted on life. As I grew older, this ‘me’ started to fade. My liveliness was replaced with cowardice, my resistance with obedience, my boldness with fear. I don’t think any of us leave childhood without some ropes despite our parents best intentions. I grew up with parents who were determined to give me the perfect life. Armed with love and good intentions, they are still doing everything for me to help me be perfect. Right from packing my suitcase for the school trip perfectly, extended help in a school project, and then dad would add his master strokes to make it better. Later he told me when my choice of friend or gang of friends weren’t worth it. Although they just wanted what was best for me, I stopped knowing what was best for me. An unconscious rope was formed. I shouldn’t trust my own chatter box of thoughts and my own ability, and I feared not being perfect. Other ropes attached themselves too. As I grew up the family started to fill up with yelling, loud voices and strong opinions. To keep the peace, I learned to stay quiet, and started to keep a low profile like being invisible at home . In school/college, I experienced and learnt that it’s more important to blend in than stand out. And the pain of being dumped cluelessly led me to hold back in my relationship so I could avoid getting hurt. 

I’m not good enough | Don’t speak up | Don’t stand out | Fear from rejection .These were my ropes.

If you’ve ever felt not good enough, lonesome, unwanted, unloved, invisible, powerless, like you don’t belong, you can’t trust yourself, trust others, speak up, stand out, ask for help, let others in, be accepted as you are — these are your ropes. These ropes hold us back.

I found myself agreeing to others opinions when I should have been forming my own, staying quiet when it would have benefited me to be vocal and blending in when I would have been happier where I had to stand out. This led me into a series of jobs that ranged from tolerable to being miserable. In one, I hoped I’d get sick so I could stay home from work. It led me into a series of relationships where I lacked conviction.  My beliefs affected the way I perceived the world, which changed how I reacted, which led to a self-fulfilling imagery. I felt small, and my world became smaller.

Post my motorcycle accident back in 2015 I was left with a third degree fracture on my leg and the broken zygoma (cheekbone) leading to diplopia and a visible squint the right eye. I had my reasons to not look at people I had conversations with forcing people to believe either lack confidence or I am arrogant and mannerless. Recently I understood what could have been a perfectly normal conversation instead became an awkward one. You see now what we believe has powerful effects. Decades of social psychology research backs this up.  How you see yourself and your circumstances will affect your observation, reaction and what materialise as a result. It’s almost as if our beliefs play a virtual to reality gaming device, a device that allows us to see things that aren’t really there and sends us into a false reality. I remember reading on of Shahrukh Khan’s interviews where he says 

“The best way to be, particularly in today’s world where everybody is telling you how you should be or shouldn’t be. My mom wanted me to become an actor but three-hour people from Mumbai whom we knew well told her I’d never make it because I was’t good looking enough. She was hurt but it didn’t bother me because all I wanted to do was to act and I assured her “main kaam karma rehunga” and thirty years later, I am a poster boy!” 

Imagine dating someone for a weeks. Then the person have to go on a work trip. For four days don’t hear a word from your partner. How would you interpret this? What will be the first thought in your head? Your beliefs may lead you to wonder what you must have done or said to make this once enthusiastic person change approach towards you.

Let me share some pre-set thoughts:

• Trust issue : “ Was sure he/she was on this trip with another woman/man.

• Fear of rejection : “ Guess he/she was probably upset because I didn’t invite him/her as my date to an upcoming event.

• Commitment issue : “ He/She probably thought we were moving too fast and was taking some space.

Each thought gauged the situation through the gaming device in your heads . Each of these assumption leads to a different response. 

• Moving too fast? — I should pull back but what if the person feels rejected.

• Feeling rejected? — I should up my calls and invite him to the event. But what if the person thinks we’re moving too fast.

As this ping-pong around your own thoughts and briefly borrowed thoughts from some friends, the relationship shall  die a slow death. Sometimes our thoughts get in the way of our relationships. Just as beliefs can hold us back, they can even propel us forward.

I finally learned this lesson. My thoughts led me to Engineering College. There my beliefs were reinforced: aim for perfection, follow the crowd, fear failure. This was a familiar path. Post my bachelors degree, without thinking much about it, I took admission for Masters Program in Business Management with the promise that MMS shall unleash my creative potentials and adding more value to my resume. To my surprise I had to study economics, accounts, business laws and scarier was to make presentations leading to pull on almost all my ropes. I had to trust my own voice because when it comes to presentation, there is by definition to speak with confidence and self belief. I had to put myself out there because making presentations do not out perform competition from playing it safe. And perhaps most importantly, I had to be willing to fail, and to not be perfect. If I wanted to get it right, I first had to be willing to get it wrong.

In my first bold move since my toddler days, I turned down to work under someone reporting and placed myself in a different reality. I experimented with different jobs and took on various freelance projects, opting to ones I previously would have rejected to due to lack of experience, trusting I could figure it out. But somewhere I was still afraid of failing and sometimes I did. I made sure my thoughts don’t stop me. Then one day, I decided to lend my marketing and business development skills to my therapist and I went on to becoming a Business Partner, helping individuals take charge on their emotions and pull them out form their limiting beliefs.

Particularly meaningful for me is now I get to give others what I missed out for so long — a more powerful medium to express and educate. I broke other ropes too.

When I was afraid of rejection and lived my life as expected, I never could have imagined revealing my insecurities to you on a website that at first is solely my idea, web design and writings. That would have sounded more like I am living the life of a famous Bollywood actor, a fancy dream and here I am writing a blog with my observations and experiences. This transition wasn’t easy or quick as it sounds. Each new thought, each new action built on the one before it until I found myself in a new reality. I still have ropes I’m working to break. 

In a world before falling and staying down now we can and should opt to get back up again undisturbed. In a world in which nothing is holding us back from our full capacity. What the Business Management course was for me, a seed that gets you to question what you have previously accepted as true, that makes you more aware of your ropes, that helps you see they were always your choice to break. No matter who you are or where you are, in this moment reading my blog, there is the life that you can be living if you break your ropes. You get there one new thought at a time, one new action at a time until one day, you find yourself in a new reality. Wishing you courage and strength to break the ropes you are held with I concluded with my experience “I shouldn’t believe everything I think”. To get the switch ‘OFF’ to my thoughts, I simply had to realise I had ropes that hold me back. Ropes broken. New beliefs lead to new actions. All the very best!!

Perfectionism: Opportunity with Obstacle or Obstacle in Opportunity

 

I'm a bit of a perfectionist. Now, how many times have you heard someone saying this? A social get together, maybe, with friends, or perhaps with family at festive days. It's everyone's favourite defect, it's that now quite common response to the difficult, final question at job interviews: "My biggest weakness? That's my perfectionism." You see, for something that apparently holds us back, it's quite remarkable how many of us are quite happy to hold our hands up and say we're perfectionists. But there's an interesting and serious point because our complaining wonder for perfection is so pervasive that we never really stop to question that concept in its own terms. 

 

What does it say about us and our society that there is a kind of celebration in perfection? 

We tend to hold perfectionism up as a badge of worth. The emblem of the successful. Yet, in understanding perfectionism, its has seen limited evidence that perfectionists are more successful. Quite the contrary, they feel unhappy and dissatisfied amid a slow sense that they're never quite perfect enough. We know from reports that perfectionism conceals a host of psychological difficulties, including things like depression, anxiety and even suicidal thoughts. And what's more worrying is that over the last 25 years, we have seen perfectionism rise at an alarming rate. And at the same time, we have seen more mental illness among young people than ever before. Rates of suicide in the India alone increased by 25 percent across the last two decades. 

 

Young people today are more preoccupied with the completion of the perfect life and lifestyle. In terms of their image, status and wealth. Young people borrow more heavily than did older generations, and they spend a much greater proportion of their income on image goods and status possessions. These possessions, their lives and their lifestyles are now displayed in vivid detail on the global social media platforms of Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat. In this new visual culture, the appearance of perfection is far more important than the reality. 

 

If one side of the modern landscape that we have so abundantly furnished for young people is this idea that there's a perfectible life and that there's a perfectible lifestyle, then the other is surely work. Nothing is out of reach for those who want it badly enough. Opportunity, the self-made person, hard work. The notion that hard work always pays off. And above all, the idea that we're captains of our own destiny. These ideas, they connect our wealth, our status and our image with our innate, personal value where it is a complete fiction. Because even if there were equality of opportunity, the idea that we are captains of our own destiny disguises a blunt truth for young people that they are subject to an almost ongoing economic trial. Metrics and rankings have emerged as the benchmarks for which merit can be quantified and used to sort young people into schools, classes and colleges. 

 

Education is the first arena where measurement is so publicly played out and where metrics are being used as a tool to improve standards and performance which starts young. No wonder young people report a strong need to strive, perform and achieve at the centre of modern life. They've been conditioned to define themselves in the strict and narrow terms of grades, percentiles and lead tables. 

·  This is a society that preys on their insecurities about how they are performing and how they are appearing to other people. 

·  This is a society that amplifies their imperfections. 

Every flaw, every unforeseen setback increases a need to perform more perfectly next time, or else, bluntly, you're a failure. That feeling of being flawed and deficient is especially penetrative; just talk to young people. 

 

"How should I look; how should I behave?" "I should look like that model, I should have as many followers as that Instagram influencer, I must do better in school." 

 

In many young people these lived effects of perfectionism first hand. And one student sticks out in my mind very vividly. Mayank, not his real name, was ambitious, hardworking and diligent and on the surface, he was exceptionally high-achieving, often getting first-class grades for his work. Yet, no matter how well Mayank achieved, he always seemed to recast his successes as horrible failures, and he would talk openly about how he'd let himself and others down. Mayank’s justification was quite simple: How could he be a success when he was trying so much harder than other people just to attain the same outcomes? 

 

See, Mayank's perfectionism, was only serving to expose what he saw as his inner weakness to himself and to others. Cases like Mayank's speak to the harmfulness of perfectionism as a way of being in the world. Contrary to popular belief, perfectionism is never about perfecting things or perfecting tasks. It's not about striving for excellence. Mayank's case highlights this intensely. At its root, perfectionism is about perfecting the imperfect self.

 

And you can consider it like a mountain of achievement that perfectionism leads us to imagine ourselves scaling. And we think to ourselves, "Once I've reached that peak, then people will see I'm not flawed, and I'll be worth something." But something perfectionism doesn't tell us is that soon after reaching that peak, we will be called down again to the fresh lowlands of insecurity and shame, just to try and scale that peak again. This is the cycle of self-defeat. In the pursuit of unattainable perfection, a perfectionist just cannot step off. And it's why it's so difficult to treat. 

 

Now, we've known for ages that perfectionism contributes to a host of psychological problems, but there was never a good way to measure it. Until now, the first is self-oriented perfectionism, the irrational desire to be perfect: "I strive to be as perfect as I can be." The second is socially prescribed perfectionism, the sense that the social environment is excessively demanding: "I feel that others are too demanding of me." And the third is other-oriented perfectionism, the imposition of unrealistic standards on other people: "If I ask somebody to do something, I expect it to be done perfectly." 

 

Now, research shows that all three elements of perfectionism associate with compromised mental health, including things like increased depression, increased anxiety and suicide thoughts. But the most problematic element of perfectionism is socially prescribed perfectionism. That sense that everyone expects me to be perfect. This element of perfectionism has a large correlation with serious mental illness. And with today's emphasis on perfection at the forefront of my mind, I was curious to see whether these elements of perfectionism were changing. 

 

To date, research in this area is focused on immediate family relations. All three elements of perfectionism have increased over time. But socially prescribed perfectionism saw the largest increase, and by far. Remember, this is the element of perfectionism that has the largest correlation with serious mental illness, and that's for good reason. Socially prescribed perfectionists feel a compelled need to meet the expectations of other people. And even if they do meet yesterday's expectation of perfection, they then raise the bar on themselves to an even higher degree because these folks believe that the better they do, the better that they're expected to do. This breeds a profound sense of helplessness and, worse, hopelessness. 

 

But is there hope? 

Of course, there's hope. Perfectionists can and should hold on to certain things they are typically bright, ambitious, conscientious and hardworking. But a little bit of self-compassion, going easy on ourselves when things don't go well, can turn those qualities into greater personal peace and success. And then there's what we can do as supporters. 

Perfectionism develops in our formative years, and so young people are more vulnerable. Parents can help their children by supporting them unconditionally when they've tried but failed. Mom and Dad can resist their understandable urge in today's highly competitive society to helicopter-parent, as a lot of anxiety is communicated when parents take on their kids' successes and failures as their own. 

 

But ultimately, the research raises important questions about how we are structuring society and whether our society's heavy emphasis on competition, evaluation and testing is benefiting young people. It's become every day for public figures to say that young people just need a little bit more strength in the face of these new and exceptional pressures. But I believe that is us washing our hands of the core issue because we have a shared responsibility to create a society and a culture in which young people need less perfection in the first place. Creating that kind of world is an enormous challenge, and for a generation of young people that live their lives in the 24/7 spotlight of metrics, achievements and social media, perfectionism is inevitable, so long as they lack any purpose in life greater than how they are appearing or how they are performing to other people. 

 

What can they do about it? 

Every time they are knocked down from that benchmark, they see no other option but to try scaling that peak again. So long as we teach young people that there is nothing more real or meaningful in their lives than this hopeless quest for perfection, then we are going to condemn future generations to that same futility and despair. And so we're left with a question. When are we going to appreciate that there is something fundamentally inhuman about limitless perfection? No one is flawless. If we want to help our young people escape the trap of perfectionism, then we will teach them that in a chaotic world, life will often defeat us, but that's OKAY. Failure is not weakness. If we want to help our young people outgrow this self-defeating snare of impossible perfection, then we will raise them in a society that has outgrown that very same delusion. But most of all, if we want our young people to enjoy mental, emotional and psychological health, then we will invite them to celebrate the joys and the beauties of imperfection as a normal and natural part of everyday living and loving. 

SELF-ESTEEM: A SELF-DEVELOPED SKILL

 

In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of self-worth or personal value. In other words, how much you appreciate and respect yourself. Well we all know that self-esteem can be an important part of success. Too little self-esteem can leave people feeling defeated or depressed. It can also lead people to make bad choices, fall into destructive relationships or fail to live up their full potentials. I believe self-esteem starts in the mind. When born we are born with a promise and its potential which is a secret, invisible and it is surely inside us. This is the case with every person living or dead on the face of this earth and these potential stays “what I can be is up to me and what my life can be is up to me”. The saddest part is that many of us never find our potential and remaining many of us never live our potential. 

Imagine you were born with a Blank Canvas and totally equipped with required colors, brushes and it was totally up to you what you wanted to do with your life canvas. You can use any color, any brush stroke. it was totally up to you where you could paint the painting of your life using the potential that you came with and you can paint any image on that canvas. Creating a masterpiece and calling it the Painting of Life.

 

Now what happens is, as we are born with the canvas - a promise, potential and with this unlimited imagination and instantaneously what starts to happen is people also come and they start painting on your canvas. These people are well-meaning, they mean well some are great and are positive, uplift and support you. But other people keep you small and condition you, they tease and pull you down. All of these other people are painting on your canvas making our masterpiece. This continues for a number of years and then suddenly you start to realize the painting doesn’t quite look the same anymore. It’s something different than you had thought but this continues for further number of years and then eventually you start accepting that this painting is the one that should be your life. Basically, accepting other people’s ideas, conditioning and perspectives about you as your reality. Now people have added their conditionings, ideas and perspective on your mind space as colours and brush strokes which we now want to change.

The blank canvas we are born with is a mind space which explains the statement self-esteem starts in the mind. The thoughts are the colors used to make the masterpiece of life. They can be positive feelings, up lifting or will be negative feelings and these thoughts create our values, beliefs and ultimately our Self-Esteem. So, everything that you think in the mind about what has happened in your life until now is what is creating your self-esteem. It is this self-esteem that will make or break you in life. 

 

Leonardo da Vinci’s drawing of The Vitruvian Man is one of the most popular world icons was created by around the year 1487. It is accompanied by notes based on the work of famed architect, Vitruvius Polio. The drawing is on display occasionally at Gallerie dell’Accademia, Venice, Italy. Every year when on display around six million people visit this place to see the drawing as it is very iconic and beautiful. Being a piece of heritage and volume of visitors The Vitruvius Polio is guarded around a lot of security but astonishingly you never see this security. The moment there is any step taken closer by any means the guards can race them and they protect the canvas. 

From today onwards our mind, panelist or mind space is like that Vitruvius Polio drawing and we guard it. We will allow people inside who are positive, up lifters, encouragers and the ones giving us confidence rejecting others who are negative, pull us down and the ones who tell us we are no good. This doesn’t mean you start removing people from your lives, some people are positive and some are negative but it means you do not allow the negativity into your mind space.

 

Imagine for a moment now looking at your painting of life. There are things positive as well as negative painted on it. Looking at it as it is, decide are you happy with the masterpiece, are you happy with your life or a bit frustrated. If frustrated the its time to make some changes and make some choices. This is how we move forward and make a decision only out of these two choices. First, we can accept the negativity and discouragements or Second, we can start to take action. We can take action knowing that we can are making a difference in our lives. 

 

There is a popular Indian saying “the bite of the snake does not kill you but it is the poison that is left behind once the snake is gone which is fatal”. We all have events in our lives where something bad had happened many years ago and we continue to think about it longer even after the event has happened. So, the the bite of the snake represents the event and we thinking about it long after it has happened is the poison. 

 

Solution: What’s already painted on you canvas stays on it. You may try to scrape off the paint. The scrapping will make it look uglier. So, the solution is as simple as you start repainting on you canvas. This means you are choosing not to develop negative thoughts and would repaint it with new colors of positive thoughts, ideas and experiences. From this moment, onwards you can change the way you think and act. 

 

Let me introduce you to a simple yet effective therapy and it is called THE SMILE THERAPY. It is a self-therapy and doesn’t need expertise like other therapies do. 

Practical: So, think about something that makes you angry. Feel that anger in your body and remember where you felt it the most. Now relax, get a small smile think of the same something and could you connect to the anger? The smile that you introduced to the memory that get you anger changed the definition or trigger to your emotion. 

 

There are two types of smiles. The smile that everyone regularly uses is called a laugh because of something funny. On the other hand, Mac smile a is create smile. In other words, its fun when you smile. By creating your smile, you can change your mind from negative to positive. As a result, it will improve your health, aesthetics and interpersonal relationships. The objective is to improve your overall human capability by improving your appearance with smile training and your inner strength with mental training.

 

This works on two principles: 

(1)FACIAL DOUBLE FEEDBACK EFFECT   

When the brain detects that you are having fun or liking something, it will naturally raise your mouth’s corner turning it into a smile. This is because a pleasure hormone called endocrines gets released in the brain.

 

(2)MIRROR EFFECT

Imagine a mirror between you and the other person. When you smile, they will smile right back; when they smile, you smile right back at them. Conversely, the transfer of your grim face onto the other person is called the reverse mirror effect.

 

Let me introduce you to another simple yet an effective technique and it’s called STOP. This technique is very effective and works for everyone. STOP technique just means when you have a negative thought you STOP your mind and mouth to introduce a pause. Then you introduce in a positive thought. Here you think of the positive instead of the negative. A positive thought is something that makes you happy the moment you think about it. Researchers have concluded that humans have about 50,000 thoughts every day. Miraculously all of those thoughts are the same you had yesterday and the day before and the day before that. Researchers have even proven that majorly those thoughts are negative. If we have low self-esteem then we have more negative thoughts of everybody else and we think about the past more than anybody else. 

 

The first thing every morning most of us do is we check our mobile phones. So, today onwards the first thing we do every morning is we stop checking our mobile phones and replace it with checking our mind space for the thought we have woken with. Consider you waking up with a negative thought – I am still tiered / I didn’t sleep enough / I drank too much / my exam today is going to be a blunder. We are going to say STOP to that negative though introduce a pause with a positive thought. This is when you are paining positivity over the negativity on your mind-space/canvas. You think of the positive thought for about 20/30/40 seconds and then you start your day.

 

Concluding with two easy solutions to nullify the negative emotions triggering bad thoughts majorly affecting your SELF-ESTEEM by virtue of The Smile Therapy and STOP technique you keep repeating this during the day. You have happy thoughts you have happy emotions and you take happier actions and lead a happier life. So, do not care what your past has been like nor what has occurred to you in your life until this moment. What really matters is how you move forward from this moment onwards. Remember you are the child born with the promise and the potential is still inside each and every one of you. It is the time you shine and bring out your potential choose your thoughts and repaint it on your canvas making it a masterpiece. 

SELF LOVE

 

Have you ever asked yourself “what defines me as a person and makes me the person I am”? Most of us characterise ourselves through a physical image of our profession, bank balance and mostly on what are people's opinion about us. We initially determine ourselves through three things termed as people’s opinion about us, our personality and physical appearance (physique for boys | figure for girls) and our relationships. The very initial need of pleasing people ti make everyone to like us. The more likeable we are the chances of us being needed, important and popular. Shaping us to a person that everyone would like. Simply said a life on opinion of others. It goes relentlessly immoral when we indulge in attaining the perfect physique/figure by dieting and cutting down on our meals. Furthermore getting in a relationship where we believe happiness comes from that one person we are affectionate to and we manage to pressurise them to be everything to us in exchange of making us feel worthy. Resulting the relationship to end and leaving us devastating/heart broken. So, broken that we lose our sense of identity, the only reason being that we do not know ourselves at all. 

 

Going forward we heal ourselves listening to positive affirmations, reading motivational books and seeking methods to find our happiness for ourselves. Thus, realising our capabilities of being our own self. To rectify our earlier mistakes of letting these things to control and consume our lives we seek happiness around these things and never ever seem to find it. Overlooking the fact that happiness is something we create on our terms for ourselves. The world that we live in is something we create for ourselves regardless to worldly society we actually live in. It’s about an individual's world each and every one of us experiences. This is where we shape ourselves, our worlds and our lives too. There is only one part of the universe we can all be certain about changing and that’s ourselves. 

 

Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love means having high regards to your own well-being and happiness, taking care of your own needs and not to sacrifice it to please others. Self-love means not settling for less than you deserve.

I came across a wonderful book named Fifteen Invaluable Laws by John Maxwell. The writer summarising facts we often ignore quotes “As children our bodies grow automatically a year goes by we get taller we become stronger become capable of doing more things facing new challenges. But a lot of us carry a subconscious belief into adulthood. That spiritual, mental and emotional growth occurs automatically too”. Personal growth has to be intentional and we need to take ownership of our growth process because we do not simply improve by coincidence. It's only when we focus our energy on getting to know and spending more time by ourselves resulting in learning more about ourselves. We need to make ourselves a priority in our lives and self-discovery is the best gift we can present ourselves.

 

Many people may think putting ourselves first is being selfish but it actually means taking a stand, looking at yourself saying “I will do everything in my power to see myself succeed and fulfil my dreams. I am going to make the best choices in my life, surround myself with self-chosen correct people that add value to me”. Once we decide to love who we are, we can take that self-love and spread it to other's. Without self-love, we are limiting our ability to add ourselves into lives of other people and add value to them. Living the best version of our self inspires other people to follow to live their best version as well. 

 

The relationship we have with ourselves is priority and important. It is how we see and treat ourselves reciprocating to how we treat other people. It is irrational to give love to other's when we don’t love our selves first. We must now think of every person that surrounds us asking ourselves “are these people adding value or helping me grow into the person I wish to become”. Then finally ask to ourselves “am I adding value to me?” These two questions are crucial since people we are alongside life has major impact and influence in our personality, growth and development. Nevertheless, we ourself are the biggest impact and influence dwellers in our lives. 

So, if the answer to these two questions is NO, then let's decide today that we go through a transformation. If you decide to take that transformation do not just place a small amount of value to yourself since it is guaranteed that the world will not raise your worth. KNOW YOUR OWN SELF-WORTH. Concluding on a positive note, let’s start focusing, developing and improving ourselves for good thing will surely come along. It is about time you notice the gap between where you are currently and where you see yourself can be achieved only with constant growth. This thing called life happening alongside is genuinely difficult yet worth living. Wishing you all a life where you have high regards for yourself, prioritise yourself and appreciate your gift called life. Love yourself and the world will love you back inevitably.